Charger Mom Takes on the Political Machine

Just what I always wanted to do --- take on the political machine. Not only do I get involved in a campaign, working my buns off to get a candidate elected for U.S. Senate, but I manage to get myself involved in political discussions that go on for days, bickering with liberals who probably don't even vote. The real issue isn't the current administration, it's their guilt over making no choices and taking no stand against the liberal political machine that had determined themselves to be dictators that are taking us down a long road to no freedom, no liberty and no rights.

Is it a waste of my time or is it simply more of a side track to the edge of freedom. I don't want to let go and leave this alone. I don't want a dictator in Washington D.C. A few nights ago, I listened to Mike Huckabee tell his audience if they didn't want to live under current leaders they should run for office themselves. Or take a different tact, support the candidate they can get behind with funding. Either way works. But I don't have a lot of cash to put behind my candidate. So... I've chosen to support him with time and effort.

So, will I run, ever... Maybe. But not this year. This year, I'm satisfied to support a winning candidate and make it happen for him, so we can take back our country. Bring back our freedoms, and live FREE the way we were meant to live with liberties guaranteed by our Constitution.

We are born equal, given the freedom and liberty God created us for and we have the ability to bring back all the power and control to the people. The election in 2010 will make a difference. The people have the ability to bring it back. Because we the people have God. We trust and we believe in God, the father, the foundation of this nation.

Why am I a "Charger" Mom?

This morning, like many mornings, my daughter is reading over my shoulder and asks a question about the language used in my blog post... The big question today, "Why are you a Charger Mom? They are like our biggest rivals and I hate the Chargers."

Ahem, I'm definitely a Denver Bronco's fan too, but the reality is, Charger Mom has nothing to do with the Chargers football team. Oris George, after an extremely hectic meeting and week of writing, saddled me with the nickname "Charger". Well, it stuck. A few weeks later, I was working with another writer to create a blogger site and the easiest way to do that is to create a blog. I have to say, I enjoy my mommy blogs, so Charger Mom came out of that experience.

So if you're searching online for a mom of a member of the Chargers Football team... Um... I'm not it.

Pregnant Sisters - the Joys and the Triumphs

Watching daughters share the joys and triumphs of pregnancy gives new meaning to parenthood. Just this morning we discussed what we call little boys.

My granddaughter is a Princess, Little Missy, Chica (okay, not often), Girly, Sassy, Sissy and Goose. My grandson on the other hand is Mr., Little Man, Big Boy, Mr. Colm (since Colm is his name), and The Mr. --- not to mention, Mr. Moose.

Rarely do we refer to Elizabeth as Miss Elizabeth, although it does happen on occasion. But, Colm often hears his name as Mr. Colm. Is it really a boy/girl thing, or just the process of giving children nick names?

What ever happened to Prince Charming or Handsome Little Prince?

As the days come closer, and we anticipate the arrival of Colm and Elizabeth's little cousin --- whether he's a Mr. or she's a Miss ---- the discussions surrounding babies, pregnant mommies and parenting abound. We all have a new little nickname for the baby, and some of those have been, Little Hummer, "The Basketball", or Baby Bump. No matter what we call the next arrival, you can be assured that this Charger Mom can hardly wait for another grandbaby to set the world on fire.

Abandoned - Feeling as Though You Were Left Behind

Life changes and personal decisions are often made between husbands and wives, sometimes disregarding the other's feelings in the matter. It is unintentional that one leaves the other out, in most cases. As one person does something for themselves, they feel as if they are doing it for both, but rarely is it a case of the second feeling as if the act was for them. More often, the other person feels as if they were left out of the decision if not the action. Life boils down to doing what is necessary for ourselves and sometimes that means abandoning another... Sometimes the abandonment is complete and eternal, other times it's a temporary separation.

If you're the one taking off for wild blue yonder, you may think the other person is being selfish, when in fact, they're missing you.

Feeling abandoned isn't selfish, it's a real, whole feeling that you're allowed to experience and express. Accepting the feelings and moving through them to gain control of a situation helps to gain access to the more pressing concern of what you're going to do about those feelings. In a whole "safe" relationship, a person feeling abandoned (temporarily) can work through the feelings with the other person and the relationship benefits from the experience. In a less safe relationship, the process can inflict permanent wounds.

Taking off for the next county for an hour or two of break time, feeling your own pain and experiencing life without the pitfalls of a host of family and friends gives you room to get a grip on your own feelings. Giving others notice, helps them to understand your purpose and that you'll come back.

The reality is, most of us feel abandoned at one time or another and that feeling is real. If you have family members who have been abandoned, don't perpetuate the issue by continuing to abandon them. Give them notice. "Hey, babe, I'm going to take a cruise. I'll be back."

If you're the one feeling like you've been left behind, don't push the panic button, give the other person time to reappear in your life. Acknowledge that not all exits are permanent and know that you can ave your feelings and still exist without the panic. You have a right and a responsibility to yourself to find a secure place to feel your own emotional highs and lows.

Irritable Personalities and Relationships

Every family has them, those irritable personalities that require extra effort to get along with and maintain relationships. In our family there have been a few. My ex husband's family were filled up with rude obnoxious individuals who lacked the finesse required to be part of a family. For the most part, they were quite comfortable in their own world rejecting any newcomers and alienating family members without reason or cause. I remember thinking it was just his family's way of rejecting me (taking it personally for unknown reasons), but I've since found that it wasn't just his family. There are many families who have members (either in groups or singular) just like them.

I struggled for years to love them anyway, giving long after there was anything to give. Even after my ex left, realizing that he too was unable to be part of family relationships, I continued to find inner peace through loving. Eventually, I realized that I could choose to love them and they still might choose to reject the love.

Not everybody likes building relationships and being part of a family. Some actually prefer their solitude, at least they claim to prefer it. Whether they really don't want family, or just don't have any ability to co-associate and develop relationships, I'm not certain, but they certainly aren't willing to go the distance to be part of a family relationship.

In a recent discussion with my best friend, she revealed sharp comments made by a sister-in-law about her baby. She is a great mom, but the sister-in-law commented on how unkempt her children are. I've never seen her children unkempt. I have seen them happily playing in the sand box outside their home, or dancing in the sprinkler in the back yard during the summer. I reminded my friend that the sister-in-law has no children and no probably chance of ever having them because she's chosen a career choice that affords her no time for family... She's still single with no serious suitors. With the realization that parenting probably isn't part of the sister-in-law's future, my friend took a different tact to dealing with her over the holidays. Instead of being offended by her advice and comments, she responded with a knowing smile, "It's a real blessing to have children who are sometimes allowed to play and have fun without being concerned about fashion strategies."

When my daughter visited her husband's family and came home frustrated with a brother who has no children and lacks tact, we discussed the same issues. He isn't dating, lacks the ability to consider anyone else's perspective because he's all wrapped up in his own issues. His comments are out of lack of knowledge and understanding, and although they may be intended to strike out at her, she doesn't have to take them that way. She could actually consider his lack of personal experience and simply feel sorry for his inept position rather than taking his comments personally.

When we realize that we can perceive others out of our fullness of life, rather than acknowledging their emptiness, our lives and our responses to family relationships and irritable personalities changes. We gain control of the situation and become more than capable of loving the person through their irritable output. Our ability to love may not improve our relationships with those people, but it will allow us to live in peace without feeling rejection by those personalities.

Charger Mom - The New Super Woman

I used to think superwoman wore a gold bra with red and white spangles all over what little parts of her body she covered. But over the past few weeks, I've come to recognize a different sort of Superwoman.

She's not wearing a swimsuit with meager proportions, and her hair doesn't remain in place no matter the weather. Sometimes her eyes are red from crying and she'd pop out of a swimsuit if she dared to try one on. Her view of life isn't presented before a golden staff, and she doesn't fly from place to place, although there are times when her wings are gilded and her halo holds a perfect shine. The glimpse of a tear in her eye will tell you, beyond any shadow of a doubt that she's not the superwoman figurine, she's a real mom, the total woman, Charger Mom.

Through the Pages of Parenthood, I'd like to introduce you to another Charger Mom, who takes her position and her responsibility very seriously. This mom is single and has fought out the battle that will eventually bring her great success and the privilege of knowing that she's accomplished great things and through her own efforts, her daughter, like my daughter, will know that life offers greatness, wonderment, and the thrill of parenthood.

Beating Down the Goblins to Win the Race Called Life

Last week I spent a lot of time with my kids, thinking often about the lives we've shared along the way. There's never enough time to catch up on all the events and activities that we've missed, but we spend more time celebrating the miracle of those events we've shared. Until the moment when we realize there's something slightly out of sync and we must find the cause...

Brenna mentioned early in the week that she was feeling a bit down due to low response to sales over the past month, but even that didn't take away the joy we were all feeling at spending the time together. My meetings over the weekend didn't quite go as planned. One canceled all together, another postponed and yet one more was rescheduled for Tuesday. Even those events didn't slow down the emotional highs we experienced.

There was a moment when Brenna realized she was struggling financially due to low income from her job this month, but she spent a few moments feeling thrilled gratitude at the health and well being she was experiencing through her pregnancy. She mentioned the wonder she feels at the sight of her AMAZING daughter.

Later, Tatia mentioned how hard it is to always be on top of life and happy, when things go wrong. We talked about being grateful for the good things that come, even when things are going wrong. Sometimes out of the ashes a phoenix does rise.

Discussions of life goblins and how we beat them, before they get to us came up. We chattered about the various goblins our lives have encountered and how we always seem to come out feeling better for the experience. There's an understanding of the process of living that comes from struggling through the failures and destructions of life that allows each of us to encounter the joy of simply overcoming those issues. We all know the gratitude of finding greater pleasures, and these are the reasons.

For interesting stories about how a young single mom overcomes the daily rigors of life and manages to love more, give more and laugh harder, visit Pages of Parenthood. Be sure to sign up for the Ezine and get your fair share of the wonderful gifts and free tips Brenna shares in her revelation of life.